Losing a part of yourself after losing a relationship can cause withdrawal and a dangerous level of depression. Depression is not permanent just like the relationship that ended. If you appreciate the wholeness of yourself without an individual, you will understand the message in the lesson. Everything that distracts you is not meant to destroy you. Listening to the inner spirit that whispers a comforting feeling soothes you even when your preference and longing is for what left.
The Breakup was a detour set up for where you needed to be positioned to go. Have you ever been lost trying to find a place in a hurry and the navigation systems recalculates your direction? As frustrating as that may have been; it didn’t make you drive off a cliff. In my previous experience, it caused me to pull over and try to use another app. You can’t drive in a direction if you don’t know where you are going. You will most likely see things you’ve never seen before, or run out of gas.
The Breakdown is a prerequisite of your Breakthrough. The breakdown has to position you to surrender that you are more important than what caused you the pain. Pain is a reminder that once you heal, your surviving skills are increased. I would like to think that when you go through something, it was never meant to break you down and keep you down. It was to simply build you up in order for you to find strength in the breakthrough.
If you have ever experienced a breakthrough; it can best be pronounced as holding your breath underwater, and finally coming up out of the water experience that first breath you take freely. You are not defined by a verbal description of your breakup. Learn how to turn your reality around and make it work best for you. Life will always have trials and tribulations, but you going through them without the physical damage, makes for your tailored BREAKTHROUGH!